Posted by: Stash Serafin | April 30, 2010

I use to think of a boundary as kind of like a punishment?

I never understood this fully until we got our puppy, several years ago and trained her from eight weeks to nine months in a crate.

She grew comfortable with her crate, occasionally would go in her crate by choice.

I suppose she felt safe there, and she intuitively knew it was her comfort area where she could do anything.

We had her toys there at night when we would go to bed, she would chew on a bone and I would listen to hear her softly and slowly fall asleep feeling calm and safe. The boundaries I am experimenting and experiencing with are incredible as the spots or dots and openings are small which has nothing to do with self worth.

It merely shows me how to feel myself, and feeling myself with dignity and diplomacy.

Diplomacy allows me to dialogue with boundaries in a very easy way that move slowly, sensitively and simple with easy, gentle and effortless movements.This is yet another way of getting to know the self.

The self beyond words and yet still uses words to expand or stretch the self from a place of a boundary as to not overstretch too much, and keep a firm but not stiff or ridgid quality.

Expanding the self, fluidity, flow and flexibility are tools I use as a coach to stimulate growth.

Growth can be gentle, comfortable and easy once we feel and start to deal with what we feel when we feel it.

Another way we can look at a boundary is a point of focus or a point of power.

Where does our power live?

For me, it is in this very moment.

Present moment, present power.

The ability to set a boundary and focus on a boundary keeps my thoughts and emotions centered on what I want.

It is also nice to know what I don’t want so I can really be clear with that which I truly want.

Focus on a dot, a spot, an opening.

None of this matters because you feel what you feel, and then deal with what you feel.

A boundary or a point of focus such as a dot or a spot in the body helps you find places inside you that are already safe and comfortable.

When I was a little boy, my Mom would play with me outside on our front lawn.

She would put things in her pocket that made noise when she walked or ran so I could hear the noise.

I would intuitively follow the sound as she either walked or ran.

I somehow used my intuition to teach her to move in tiny areas and as I got so comfortable in the tiny areas, the areas would expand.

I somehow was able to increase the size of my circle.

I do this now on and off of the ice.

This is why I am so excited to share with you the examples of dots, spots, and openings.

Life can be easy or easier if you’re still are not comfortable with easy.

Either way, life gets better.

Life flows, and life grows as life for me is an adventure always progressing and expanding.

Be safe, stay focused, and be whatever you want to be.

Posted by: Stash Serafin | January 21, 2010

Training at CSUN

Posted by: Stash Serafin | January 21, 2010

Snow in Las Vegas

Believe it or not it snowed in Las Vegas today!

Posted by: Stash Serafin | November 24, 2009

Drop The How In The Now

I am tired of trying to figure life out.I am in the mood to just be, and be glad and grateful for what and who I really am.I am, and that entitles me to exist, because I feel and sense myself now.I sense all of myself, and am learning more about my real self each day I live in this physical experience.I am both visible and non-visible; or invisible and visible.I am form and formless.

I am so grateful to feel a part of rather than apart from.Apart of feels connected, united, receptive, and expansive.

Apart from; feels separate, disconnected, sad, not happy, always afraid, angry and guilty.

To me this feels like fear as fear to me represents separation or disconnection.

Trying not to figure things out feels refreshing like a breath of fresh air in my life experiences.

Just being sensitive enough to feel the difference between form and formless is a start.

The form is easy, because we can use our senses of taste, touch, smell, sight, and hearing for results or validation.

Formless on the other hand has to do more with the intangibles like love, peace, joy, passion, purpose, and spirit.

The interesting thing if you don’t like the word spirit just call it something.The spirit or the something somehow stimulates something to happen by those intangibles I listed above.

Practice just a little sensing the difference between a tangible and the intangible and feel what happens.

Maybe you too will stop figuring a little less, be a little more, relax a bit more, and resist just a tiny bit less and have some fun.

Creativity comes from not figuring but having fun in the now which creates the future.

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Posted by: Stash Serafin | September 14, 2009

Feel first and form follows

I am so excited to introduce you to my new friend, Doris Jeanette as we met on Twitter several weeks ago, and connected on so many levels.

Doris hosts a free Internet radio show.

Doris is a pioneer person on every level. She understands energy awareness by living it. She feels first, and form follows.

Dr. Jeanette is a licensed psychologist with a holistic psychology based on learningTheory research and healthy energy flow in the body and emotions; a Philadelphiapsychologist since 1975 when she worked with Joe Wolpe, MD at Temple Medical SchoolDoris Jeanette was proclaimed" The Siren of Spontaneity" by the Philadelphia Inquirer in 1994.

Maralyn Lois Pollack, who wrote the featured interview in the Sunday Inquirer alsonoticed that she was "warm, genuinely likable" and communicated in "honeyed tonesof her muted Southern accent."

Maralyn summarized her psychological evolution:

"Ever so incrementally, Doris Jeanette (nee Ward, formerly Keller) has expanded,and exploded, the boundaries of her traditional clinical training. She actuallyholds a doctorate in psychology from highly respectable Baylor University, and shehad a post doctoral fellowship with eminent behaviorist Joseph Wolpe, M.D. at Tempe Medical Schools, both during the 1970’s.

She’s achieved admirable electricity in her work, moving from sex therapy andfeminist therapy to the further reaches of ’new science’ With Nature as her co-therapist,Doris Jeanette’s outdoor workshops at the seashore or forest bring participantsback, she says, ’to sanity, health, and freedom."

Anyone who is into learning more about Self Esteem, Anxiety Help, Nature join Doris at her upcoming workshop, Saturday, October 17, 2009

Listening to her radio shows in her archive section is a blast, very inspiring, and feels SO good as pioneer people are starting to stick together. Not sticking together by force, but by choice.Pioneer people have this ability to be on the edge of everything like fringe people, and; at the same time, we are in the middle of everything.

I like this example as I am called an Inspiring Blind Ice Skater and totally appreciate the fantastic radio show Doris does called, living at the Edge as I live On The Edge and love living this way.

Doris recently wrote a post about yours truly calledFeel Before You Move which is so way cool. Doris also was gracious to interview me for her radio show which is now available at

This vibrant woman gets me on every level. Doctor Doris is doing a workshop in October which for me is a must attend.

You can also get Daily doses of Doris on twitter at:http://twitter.com/DorisJeanette

Posted by: Stash Serafin | July 26, 2009

Another Twist On Trust

Somewhere in an older post I mentioned trust to me feels as if it is the most challenging quality for us humans to really experience fully.

Animals seem to do this easier than humans as they just live naturally without the friction and fear us humans seem to have.

It feels very exciting when the trust pays off and I get the rewards of my choices fully revealed either in payment, right choices, walking across a street and knowing I’ll get to the other side without getting hit by a car etc.

I’m not as afraid of crossing a highway or a street with my cane, but I still am amazed at myself for not always trusting myself when I skate doing foot-work which for me is more treacherous than jumps.

I’m 55 and I still do double jumps, still working on tripples, and spins, but foot-work still remains the most challenging.

It isn’t an issue of not being able to see.We went through that one many years ago when I first started ice skating.

I still persevere with the foot-work which got me thinking everyone has their foot-work of some kind to deal with, feel and work through in whatever way fits our personality.

Mine is the gentle and comfortable way as comfort leads to confidence for me, gentleness gets me stronger, and the more I practice my foot-work in gentle and comfortable ways I somehow improve.

The slower I do the foot-work, the faster it comes together and flow happens with less friction.

Trust to me feels like a fluid kind of motion when I use it, and lack of trust feels like fear or friction.

All of us have experienced entering a room and sometimes all feels well, and sometimes there is this energy that just feels a bit off, fuzzy, unease, and not necessarily uncomfortable, but off.

We try and fight this feeling, and it seems to increase the uneasy feeling and we ignore it and pretend all is well.

This uneasy feeling is something we could spend the rest of life trying to figure out so why bother.

Be with what works, and the uneasy feelings somehow get dealt with in productive and positive ways that feel better or good.

The allowing is so important.The allowing of the uneasy to be comforted by the easy without resistance does work.

It takes a bit of patience and sensitivity to sense feelings softly.

This is why trust can be sensed so gently that it becomes a transforming energy allowing life to flow more, relax more, plus being in the moment and feeling good does help.

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Posted by: Stash Serafin | July 23, 2009

Coaching From A Blind Persons Perspective

Someone recently asked me a question.

How do I coach ice skaters?

I am totally blind, and had to think for a minute to come up with an answer that was satisfactory.

I teach by sound.The blades don’t lie.

Blades, by the way they sound either make noise when the blades have friction, and are very quiet when blades glide as the blades have flow.

More flow, less noise. More friction, more noise.

Believe it or not, I can hear jumps by the sounds the blades make.

The jumps just like flow and friction have their sounds if one can listen closely enough to hear.

This has to do with life in my humble opinion.

This is why skating is an absolute metaphor of my life.

It represents life through flow or friction, and in each moment we have the power to choose exactly what we want or don’t want.

Skating takes patients as does living a full life.

Be patient, take your time, and all things come to those who wait.

The secret is to enjoy the moments of waiting as these moments are sometimes when real inspiration happens.

Rugby Jones does this as he knows when to move for something or wait until he’s really ready to get it.

Maybe he’s smart enough to allow it to come to him.

I feel he is smart to allow, and that’s why he’s so smart.

He goes with the flow in a real literal way.

Feeling and being free despite his so called disability he does make a difference just like I make a difference on and off of the ice.

http://www.stashskate.com/

Posted by: Stash Serafin | July 15, 2009

Skating Is Poetry In Motion

This spirit will lead you if you pay attention.So just trust.

Its amazing how well life can work when I allow the inside to make the outside happen.

Creating is something we’re as a human race are just getting comfortable doing.

We all have wings of spirit.Lets finally use them.

Once you feel good enough, life becomes magical.Each human has magic in them.

Each human has spirit.Each human has a spark, and whenever this spark is lit, miracles truly do happen.

It takes courage for any human to do anything for the first time.

So lets hope that we can get lots of firsts of something from each person alive.

Keep trusting, Keep feeling, and life will be good to you.

You only get out of life what you put into life.

We already are perfect and whole.So begin from here.However you do it, just begin to do it now!

Whenever we tune inside ourselves, we find all the answers.We must do this, because if we have the question, the answer must be there as well.

Its still exciting to allow both feet to get off of the ice.This still amazes me.Jumping is something I seem to love.

If I follow my dreams, and allow my dreams to come from my heart, I will always get my results.

My skating dream took many years, and I’m just touching the surface.

I have much more too learn, and I also now know and understand I have much to offer as well.

Skating has helped me tune into my equality.This equality was always here, but was hidden for a long time.

Dreams Can Come True

http://www.stashskate.com/

Posted by: Stash Serafin | July 12, 2009

Sensitivity And Boundaries

I use to think of a boundary as kind of like a punishment?

I never understood this fully until we got our puppy, several years ago and trained her from eight weeks to nine months in a crate.

She grew comfortable with her crate, occasionally would go in her crate by choice.

I suppose she felt safe there, and she intuitively knew it was her comfort area where she could do anything.

We had her toys there at night when we would go to bed, she would chew on a bone and I would listen to hear her softly and slowly fall asleep feeling calm and safe. The boundaries I am experimenting and experiencing with are incredible as the spots or dots and openings are small which has nothing to do with self worth.

It merely shows me how to feel myself, and feeling myself with dignity and diplomacy.

Diplomacy allows me to dialogue with boundaries in a very easy way that move slowly, sensitively and simple with easy, gentle and effortless movements.This is yet another way of getting to know the self.

The self beyond words and yet still uses words to expand or stretch the self from a place of a boundary as to not overstretch too much, and keep a firm but not stiff or ridgid quality.

Expanding the self, fluidity, flow and flexibility are tools I use as a coach to stimulate growth.

Growth can be gentle, comfortable and easy once we feel and start to deal with what we feel when we feel it.

Another way we can look at a boundary is a point of focus or a point of power.

Where does our power live?

For me, it is in this very moment.

Present moment, present power.

The ability to set a boundary and focus on a boundary keeps my thoughts and emotions centered on what I want.

It is also nice to know what I don’t want so I can really be clear with that which I truly want.

Focus on a dot, a spot, an opening.

None of this matters because you feel what you feel, and then deal with what you feel.

A boundary or a point of focus such as a dot or a spot in the body helps you find places inside you that are already safe and comfortable.

When I was a little boy, my Mom would play with me outside on our front lawn.

She would put things in her pocket that made noise when she walked or ran so I could hear the noise.

I would intuitively follow the sound as she either walked or ran.

I somehow used my intuition to teach her to move in tiny areas and as I got so comfortable in the tiny areas, the areas would expand.

I somehow was able to increase the size of my circle.

I do this now on and off of the ice.

This is why I am so excited to share with you the examples of dots, spots, and openings.

Life can be easy or easier if you’re still are not comfortable with easy.

Either way, life gets better.

Life flows, and life grows as life for me is an adventure always progressing and expanding.

Be safe, stay focused, and be whatever you want to be.

http://www.stashskate.com/

Posted by: Stash Serafin | July 4, 2009

Independence Day Indipendent Thinking

I’ve always been fascinated with the words independence and declaration.

I know when I declare to myself a desire I truly want to achieve, the mere idea of declaring to myself it is done somehow makes a difference.

The difference for me is a felt sense of wellness or an awareness of calm assurance.

This calm assurance is an interesting sense as it indicates to me I’m on track, heading towards my desire rather than moving away from my desire.

Moving towards my desire feels like flow, as moving away from my desire feels like friction which to me is no flow or a feel of fighting instead of flow.

I sometimes get caught up in looking at everyone else and how they do their days instead of keeping on track with my day and how I want my day to develop.

This is where independence means so much for me as independent thinking allows me to think for myself.

This doesn’t mean I always discount or dismiss what the rest of the world is doing, but it does mean I pick and choose what or with whom I will participate or be with, or be a part of, and knowing all the while it is my choice.

The ability to choose is so exciting to me, and I am 55 and feel alive.

I feel more alive than I did when I was in my 40’s and I thought I was living great in those days.

Life feels like it is getting better, better, and better.

Why, maybe I am wise enough to realize thoughts matter, and I can pick which thoughts and pick which feelings I want to experience.

It for me; isn’t about clinging or clutching or holding too tight.

It is more of a sense of allowing, embracing, and flowing with my thoughts and feelings enough to keep a balance between thoughts and feelings.

Being of just being aware is the key for me.

I wish everyone everywhere the ability to think for themselves, be independent in the thinking and feeling.

The more each of us does this, we truly in my humble opinion be of true value to the world.

Ram Das once said "The world is as you see it."

Be happy on this Independence Day, 2009.

May we have the courage to think for ourselves, feel for ourselves, and welcome the exciting adventures of our future.

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