I use to think of a boundary as kind of like a punishment?
I never understood this fully until we got our puppy, several years ago and trained her from eight weeks to nine months in a crate.
She grew comfortable with her crate, occasionally would go in her crate by choice.
I suppose she felt safe there, and she intuitively knew it was her comfort area where she could do anything.
We had her toys there at night when we would go to bed, she would chew on a bone and I would listen to hear her softly and slowly fall asleep feeling calm and safe. The boundaries I am experimenting and experiencing with are incredible as the spots or dots and openings are small which has nothing to do with self worth.
It merely shows me how to feel myself, and feeling myself with dignity and diplomacy.
Diplomacy allows me to dialogue with boundaries in a very easy way that move slowly, sensitively and simple with easy, gentle and effortless movements.This is yet another way of getting to know the self.
The self beyond words and yet still uses words to expand or stretch the self from a place of a boundary as to not overstretch too much, and keep a firm but not stiff or ridgid quality.
Expanding the self, fluidity, flow and flexibility are tools I use as a coach to stimulate growth.
Growth can be gentle, comfortable and easy once we feel and start to deal with what we feel when we feel it.
Another way we can look at a boundary is a point of focus or a point of power.
Where does our power live?
For me, it is in this very moment.
Present moment, present power.
The ability to set a boundary and focus on a boundary keeps my thoughts and emotions centered on what I want.
It is also nice to know what I don’t want so I can really be clear with that which I truly want.
Focus on a dot, a spot, an opening.
None of this matters because you feel what you feel, and then deal with what you feel.
A boundary or a point of focus such as a dot or a spot in the body helps you find places inside you that are already safe and comfortable.
When I was a little boy, my Mom would play with me outside on our front lawn.
She would put things in her pocket that made noise when she walked or ran so I could hear the noise.
I would intuitively follow the sound as she either walked or ran.
I somehow used my intuition to teach her to move in tiny areas and as I got so comfortable in the tiny areas, the areas would expand.
I somehow was able to increase the size of my circle.
I do this now on and off of the ice.
This is why I am so excited to share with you the examples of dots, spots, and openings.
Life can be easy or easier if you’re still are not comfortable with easy.
Either way, life gets better.
Life flows, and life grows as life for me is an adventure always progressing and expanding.
Be safe, stay focused, and be whatever you want to be.