Comfort Leads To Confidence

Last week, I was showing Hank, my 88 year young skating student and friend some exercises to help him feel his comfort area off of the ice.

We were in the lounge, lacing our skates before I started showing him the exercises, and he said something profound as he many times does without realizing it.

We talked about our areas of comfort, and he is aware of how I use the dots like Braille dots to represent comfort areas for me as I skate in my comfort so much that it expands without any effort.

My movement on and off of the ice increases as I explore the little areas of movement so much that for some mysterious reason, my area expands naturally like breathing without any struggle or strain.

Hank said that he is starting to feel comfortable with his life in general, and he says he uses the ideas and methods we share with each other beyond skating.

Walking, going up and down steps, bending his knees before he lifts heavy items, feeling good before he starts a new project like painting his garage doors, and he is learning how to install new software on his new computer.

I suggested he take this experience of comfort and add it to the stroking and cross over exercises we would experience together.

I’m not sure who is the student or who is the teacher since I learn so much from Hank.

He use to be an engineer and flew plains when he was younger plus has an incredible way of translating images into words to help me with geometry as skating has to do with circles and figures.

Whether you jump, spin, do stroking, it all somehow relates to circles and angles relating to circles in some way, shape and form.

We finished skating, and were driving to lunch as he was proud of his cross over and edges, and soon wants to do three-turns on one foot and maybe that dreaded forward inside Mohawk.

I suggested we do two-footed foot-work first.

He liked this idea, and then he said another profound statement.

Hank said "Comfort Leads to Confidence."

When Hank said those words, something inside me felt good.

Something clicked like a shooting firework of some kind went off inside me.

Comfort can lead to confidence if I pay attention, be gentle, kind, and patient with my skating or whatever I am doing on or off of the ice.

This being comfortable first and experiencing confidence second allows me to feel first, and figure later.

As I go with what I feel when I feel it, the comfort increases as it turns into confidence.

This feels to me like a full sense of self that is healthy, happy, feels good, and does feel really natural like breathing.

I will write more about this as I have been experimenting with this idea about comfort leads to confidence this past week with interesting results.

Let me know how you feel about the idea of comfort leads to confidence.

Thanks,

Stash

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Liquid Love

I thought about this title as my left knee has been hurting quite a lot lately.

I for some reason bump into things with my left knee.

I did it last week getting off the ice in a hurry, not paying attention and hit the barrier hard.

I was focusing on lunch.

After we skate, we reward ourselves with a nice lunch, and for some reason I was very hungry.

This will teach me to not talk when I could have felt and listened to where I was going.

I tried putting ice on the knee, heat, and some kind of a cream that is suppose to help athletes with painful muscles or joints.

I tried this for a few days, and the pain remained.

I could feel the disruption of energy around my knee, and the more I tried, the worse the pain got.

I felt so frustrated I just stopped doing anything.

That is when I started to feel something interesting.

I became quiet, and began to be with my sore knee, and my right hip had a tingling sensation which felt really good.

I didn’t do anything to my knowledge but observe and feel my right hip as to my left knee.

It was like my hip and knee were having some kind of a dialogue with each other without me doing anything merely witnessing this interesting dialogue.

The sore knee and comfortable hip started to feel like liquid water flowing towards each other.

A thought came into my mind to do an experiment.

What If I could imagine feeling like my knee was made of water that was moving freely and easily like a river or a stream with a current.

I felt the current, the river and stream, and then a calm lake.

Interesting I thought as when I experienced the calm lake, my knee stopped aching and the stiffness reduced like it was melting.

It felt as if a sugar cube was dissolving in and around my knee and the knee got fluid.

I thought as I do about life and whatever I am doing now seems to apply to sensitive movement and sensitive skating.

This incredible sense of all is well surged through my body which got me to another thought or maybe a state of being.

This energy felt like love, but this love felt fluid, liquid, pliable like water and beyond water if that makes any sense.

It felt good so in my awareness it made perfect sense, and still makes sense.

I can feel this just by remembering the experience I tried with the knee and hip.

I’m intending to do more of this and feel where this goes.

It sure feels like liquid love to me.

Balance has a fluidity to it as we somehow always move.

Even though we think we’re standing still things still are moving internally.

This kind of energy exploration or experiencing feels really good.

Maybe beyond good and more like fun.

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Go With The Flow

I woke up this morning with the thought of going with the flow so I decided to write a post about this feeling of flow and how I apply it to my skating and beyond which enables me to feel flow and not just think about flow.

To me; flow is like being, and being to me has no resistance to it.

Water has no resistance when we go with the flow of the water and not fight the water.

Riding waves in the ocean is to me the same as I go with the waves rather than fight the waves or the current of the water.

I have also experienced fighting the water and I almost drown, because I tried pushing and fighting with the water.

Being merely is, and because being merely is the way we apply being in our lives could make a difference as to how we relate our experience of feeling flowwhich to me is lack of friction, and lack of friction has less stress, and brings me peace.

The idea of merely being for some folks feels threatening because resistance seems to be the way we as humans like to process our stuff.

I am also using my heart center to guide me as well as Course in Miracles

Which uses ideas like The Holy Spirit.

We all have this spirit, but call it by different names.

I truly believe that the Holy Spirit is really my imagination.

In my belief system, imagination started everything.

How cool could this be, and how powerful this could be when used to the fullest.

When you discover your imagination, and really use it, your world could change.

Real power to me is gentle, kind, and there is a real sense of flow which to me represents lack of friction.

On the ice, the blades flow, and the friction feels less when my blades feel the flow.

Peace and relaxation are the keys to feeling and following the flow of your life.

This could be why so many people when get out of their own way can do so much with so little forceful effort.

The inner is always quiet as the outer stuff does its dance.

Flow has a language of its own.

Learning about flow to some folks is like learning a new language.

The Language Of Sensitivity

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Get Your Dreams Out Of The Drawer




Six Steps to Setting and Achieving Dreams In celebration of Setting and Achieving Your Goals In 2009 Here are the six steps that have helped me and my clients achieve that dream that’s been in the drawer for years or maybe centuries in a matter of months. President Obama touched on all of them in his speech. 1. Energize your imagination to launch your dream out of the drawer 2. Make Your Dream a priority by setting up systems of accountability 3. Set specific parameters for your dream so you become a filter for only things that support your dream 4. Create anchors in your subconscious that alerts you when your dream is being supported. (mind maps, scripting, sensitive movement skills) 5. Organize your relationships in a way that fuels your dreams 6. Do what ever it takes to experience your dream now! Listen to a 30 minute content rich conversation with Director of Scripting for Success TM Ruth Anne Wood and host, Monica Pace who go into great detail how you can activate each one of theses steps in Setting and Achieving your dreams STARTING NOW! Process created by Ruth Anne Wood and Stash Serafin 6 Steps to Setting and Achieving Your Dreams CREDENTIALS: Stash Serafin inspires and teaches people on and off the ice and has appeared in the national media since the 1970s, skating with local and world-class figure skaters despite being blind since birth. Ruth Anne Wood is the director of Scripting for Success™, a production company that helps clients set and achieve impossible dreams. She is the editor of the e-zine Script Your Success and of multiple books. Serafin and Wood have written YOU CAN’T GET IT ‘CAUSE YOU’VE ALREADY GOT IT. AVAILABILITY: PA, nationwide by arrangement and via telephoneCONTACT: Ruth Anne Wood, (215) 872-5035 (PA); ruth@scriptingforsuccess.com; Stash Serafin, (215) 806-0799 (PA); Stash@stashskate.com; 3 minute B roll Blessings, Ruth PS. Please weigh in on facebook and remember to post your commitment to your "impossible" dream on the wall so we can all support you! Ruth Anne WoodScripting for Success TMSet and Achieve your Impossible DreamsEmail: ruth@ScriptingForSuccess.comfacebookEnlightened Comedy Blog76 E.State StDoylestown, PA 18901Call: 215-872-5035 BOOK: Group Coaching/ Seminars/Talks/Interviews Copyright © 2009 Scripting for Success.
Get your dream out of the drawer!

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Spirit Sustains; Doubt Drains

Spirit Sustains and Doubt Drains

I started thinking of this topic this morning as my mail wouldn’t come in fast as it usually does.

It wasn’t just mail but no site came up fast or easy.

Using a screen reader just added to the challenge.

I started pushing thoughts together and trying to make myself think the mail would come quicker by forcing myself to feel good or push thoughts to form into something I could manage.

The more I tried, the more I got angry which didn’t feel good, as my resistance grew which felt even worse!

I started feeling helpless and then it hit me like a flash of light. Maybe a flash of common sense is more like it, but either way it hit me!

When I got still, and decided to use my imagination to only imagine what I really and absolutely wanted, which was to have my mail and other sites work easily and with out effort.

I started to feel better even though nothing happened so far in the physical.

Something happened in my mind and emotions.

I found the customer support number for my service provider, called, and got a lovely lady who was so pleasant and patient as she explained a few things to me which within ten minutes, my mail was up, andcould open web pages easily, and everything moved fast both sending and receiving as well as surfing are now almost instantaneous.

Who could ask for more I thought.

I learned so much from this one little experience which if I would have allowed myself to stay stuck in the anger, I would never have been able to move to a level of no resistance.

I also didn’t stop my anger. I merely acknowledged it which stopped the resistance and I was able to feel flow which was when I found the customer support number with ease and had a wonderful dialogue with the nice lady who helped me solve this problem.

This issue with sending and receiving mail as well as navigating web pages with ease taught me again that focusing on what I really want is not a bad idea, and very practical indeed.

To me, spirit is like imagination, and doubt is like draining energy like a flopped Souffle

Think about this for a moment. If spirit can sustain, then doubt can drain which to me makes perfect sense.

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Spiritual Intelligence

Spiritual intelligence is not neceassarily related to how much you know about your

religion!

Spirituality, may not have anything to do with religion at all.

Spiritual Intelligence can be accessed to improve our spiritual wellness. Spiritual

wellness can:

Help us find meaning in life’s events

Help us to see the beauty in life

Help us to achieve inner peace and calm

Help us create authentic and satisfying lives

Increase harmony in our relationships through compassion.

Help us with a "big picture" perspective that helps us trascend everyday worries.

"When you are in possession of your inner self there is no such thing as a knock

out blow.” – Napoleon Hill

Listen to the full download to hear the cohosts of RLOB talk withInspirational

Speaker & Spiritual Teacher,

Michelle Skaletski-Boyd about how you can achieve the benefits of spiritual wellness

in your life today!

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/Michele-Gentile/va/2009/02/16/Real-Life-Only-Better-Spiritual-Intelligence

Work With What Works

Work With What Works

I have not been posting much this past month as I have been busy playing with my brand new Braille display which arrived the middle of January.

This new Braille display already has changed my life for the better as I am now able to feel what I write when I write it, read what I already wrote, edit what I am reading or already wrote which is an entirely new experience for me.Because I am a new user of a Braille display, I am still amazed how the dots appear and disappear and then reappear either by using the delete key or

Whatever method works for me in the moment.

I am not connected to the internet yet as I have much to learn, but I am able to create documents and transfer them to the computer with the stick drive and read them etc.

This Braille display business got me to thinking of not trying to learn the Braille display too quickly as I am into this business of staying in the comfort areas of what works as to what doesn’t work.

This really keeps me connected to how the dots and openings relate to my skating and moving through life in general.

The dots keep me focused, the Braille keeps me connected, and the feel of what the dots represent assists me in my every day moving on and off of the ice.

I got myself into a bit of trouble last year when I tried to push my movements and tried to force myself to move with extra speed on and off of the ice.

The only problem was my movements got smaller and I felt more stuck as I developed too much friction for my blades.

This didn’t happen on the ice alone, but as I was walking, swimming, cooking, going up steps etc.

Everything got more stuck.Why?Because I started believing that I had to push myself through life rather than flow myself through life.

I now know without a doubt that flow works for me instead of friction, and when I have too much friction, the flow stops.

I’m not saying don’t work for a goal or don’t work to become a better skater or whatever.I am stating that as one can learn to feel whatever you do in small and yet very simple and sensitive ways, life will get easier, and the struggles will be less.The challenge with this kind of living is that it takes some patience.It takes some getting use to being with this kind of gentle but yet so powerful energy and when we choose to really use it, this will change your life for the better.You can do it as I am doing it one little step or one little dot at a time!

Remember, the vision of what you want still will maintain itself.The only trick is to remain patient

Which will allow you to grow with flow instead of friction.Play and experiment with these ideas and feel and see what happens.

Thanks To Wayne, I have another clip of me skating.

You’ll Never Walk Alone

This is a perfect example of what happened when I trusted the flow and felt for it rather than fought it.

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Roger Rizzo A Real Miracle

Thank you Doctor Carole for introducing me to Roger Rizzo

Dr. Carole’s Couch 1/29/09

Overcoming Blindness (real and mental) to Reach Peak Potential

Today’s guests will inspire you with their courageous stories of overcoming adversity. Stash Serafin, a renowned figure skater despite being blind from birth, and co-author of You Can’t Get It ’Cause You’ve Already Got It!, teaches people to stop putting their dreams on ice. Roger Rizzo, author of An Almost Fatal Miracle, overcame ’blindness’ of another sort, when a motorcycle accident made him see what is really important in life.

Check out Doctor Carol’s Site and click on radio and you can hear this inspiring interview. http://www.drcarole.com

On June 30, 1995, a horrible motorcycle accident changed civil trial attorney Roger Daniel Rizzo’s life forever. His body battered and crushed, he experienced severe, traumatic brain injury that left him in danger of becoming a human vegetable.  He was in a coma for over six weeks and he awoke to reality after 5-1/2 months in the hospital. All along the doctors told his family that he would in all likelihood die. After awakening, he became aware that he had suffered massive injuries.He also soon discovered that every aspect of his life had been irrevocably altered: his home, social status, family, job, friendships, and dreams. His life was at a cross roads. While he underwent extensive rehabilitation, Rizzo began to ponder why he was alive and what he hoped to accomplish during his brief existence on Earth, an existence that had nearly come to an abrupt end. As he slowly yet steadily overcame his disabilities, he realized that he had not been truly achieving his life’s destiny. After considerable contemplation, he came to realize that his life path involved assisting others primarily by performing volunteer work.

Rizzo invites you to examine your pursuits and choices in life to determine whether they have been consistent with divine designs and intentions. You do not have to wait for a death-defying accident; just to follow his insightful story of recovery and self-examination and discover your true mission in life.

Who Should Read This Book:

Those who suffered brain injury and their family or friends.Persons who are severely disabled or extremely ill based on any cause. Persons who are elderly. They also can witness through reading the book the state of mind of someone who was on the doorsteps of death for so very long and see how he changed his life entirely to what he reasoned truly mattered while alive here on earth.

Persons who are religious. This book will enable them to experience what an individual who was on the very brink of death says about his inspired beliefs concerning the nature of God. Persons who are Atheistic or Agnostic. These individuals should welcome the opportunity o read what an ordinary individual, not a priest or minister or deacon, who is not formally a part of a church structure has to say about his close encounter with death. Those people who assist others in care giving. They would learn about an individual who spends almost all of his waking hours helpingother people.

“AN ALMOST FATAL MIRACLE”  Should Be Exceptional Reading For Everyone

 

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Authenticity

I want to thank Michele Gentile for writing such a great post from today’s show with Doctor Deborah Miller

Authenticity: Dressing your Truth with Dr. Deborah Miller

2-2-09

Todays show focused on authenticity- our inner light and what that means to us. We

explored the ideas that when we remove the obstacles to shining our "inner light"

or true essence, we are free and able to:

love ourselves

increase our feelings of self worth

feel loved by others because they know who we are, not who we are pretending to be

understand our differences as our uniqueness and accept them

become accepting of other people’s differences and not try to "change" them which

creates resistance

"shine" which is an attractivesness and beauty in its own right.

To learn more about Dr. Miller’s work visit

http://www.findthelightwithin.com/

Begin Again

I like the idea of beginning again as it is another new year which is time for me to evaluate my goals and check in with myself as to how my feelings rate my projects.

Am I on track by the way I feel?Do my new projects really have a chance in 2009?Can I be courageous enough to allow the possibility in my mind of letting life be easier than 2008?

I am convinced as I start new projects and use the ideas from my posts of 2008 like sensing my spark, dealing with dots and spots or openings, and allowing myself to experiment with what works rather than with what doesn’t work will be a great start.

This gives me a sense of control as the dots and openings represent ways of managing my new projects, new tasks and maybe skate better which will give me more confidence and motivate me to keep on keeping on as they say.

I want to learn how to cook as I already love to wash dishes, and I haven’t enjoyed cooking so far.Now it feels like it is time to learn cooking skills.

I am starting small with crock pot dishes such as Chilly, Macaroni And Cheese, and a few other possibilities.

I also am experimenting with easy and effortless ways of getting back and forth to the rink which feels good.

My drivers got new jobs so this is a perfect opportunity to practice what I preach and teach.

I want to play with ideas of seeing and feeling as if I already have perfect transportation wherever I want to go and the issue of transportation will be easy and effortless.

Using the idea of feeling my dots or openings allows me to keep myself in focus and at the same time centered.

I wonder if this way of describing my life leads to gentler ways of perception.As I see myself as well as feel my way through my experiences could change the way I feel and perceive my world.

A perfect example of how this works happened a few days ago.My partner, Wayne decided to teach me how to roll up newspapers so I could help him start a fire in our fireplace.He does the lighting, and I can do the rolling.

Wayne was surprised after he explained twice as to how to roll the newspaper and tie the papers so they would burn easier and the papers plus firewood like twigs etc would help.

After two tries I still couldn’t do it.I decided to test the idea of dots and openings.The dot represented a focusing point as to something that works.I repeated what I remembered as to how to roll the newspapers so the ends would be at angles so I eventually could bring the ends together, cross and tie.

I thought I was stupid because it took maybe ten tries but I finally got it.The slower I rolled the newspaper, and the slower I got the ends of the papers together, and the slower I worked to tie the paper worked.

There is a point to all of this.To me life sometimes is a series of repetitive actions.Repeated over and over again until they work.

Wanting to help Wayne was motivation enough, and it felt good accomplishing a new task.

Small as it is like rolling newspapers for starting a fire, but you get the point.

It is never too late to begin again.It is never too late to learn new things, test new ideas, experience new feelings and also remain comfortable with what already feels good.

Learning feels good as I am fifty-five and still feel alive.

So; this year of 2009 is just fine.

Another Way Of Seeing

 

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